Dating realities part one: If he wanted to talk to you…he would
There are a lot of dating books out there for a reason. I’ve read a lot of them, I’ve reviewed and recommended a lot of them, and I’ve learned enough that I could probably write my own…and I STILL don’t know what I’m doing! But, I am very sure of some key facts and I’m going to share them here. Here’s part one:
It’s that simple. Do you know how many times women trade messages and frantic phone calls wondering why a man hasn’t contacted them for days and then making excuses for why he hasn’t? Let’s stop sugar-coating it. Unless he’s in a coma or backpacking in Siberia, he can call you if he wants to. Even if he’s busy, he can find a minute to talk to you. Even if he’s on a pay-as-you-go cell phone, he could find a way to talk to you if he wanted to. As I tell my female friends, (and myself,) if he wanted to talk to you, he would. An interested man doesn’t forget that you exist for days at a time. And…he doesn’t just remember you days later when he’s bored and horny at midnight.
Now, you don’t have to spend every waking hour or even a few minutes every single day with someone, but a person who wants to stay in touch…does. And a person who isn’t interested in dating you…doesn’t.
Instead of calling all your girlfriends to analyze why you didn’t hear from the cute guy you met last Friday, how about going out and living your life? If he hasn’t called you, he probably isn’t feeling it, so why waste another minute of time? If he does call you, that’s great too. But the point is, enjoy your life and don’t live it around someone else. If someone wants to be in your life, they will find a way and if they don’t want to be in your life, you can’t force them to be. So…step away from your phone!
This is easier said than done, of course. I have a sticky note next to my wall phone, (and I can see it from here,) telling me the exact same thing I’m saying here: if he wanted to talk to you, he would. So, I’m reminding myself of that again and I’m sharing that lesson here before I go have a nice evening 🙂